How do i tell her this?

She is obviously interested in seeing you. She is trying to find out more information about you and your wife. Many men lie that they are separated, but really they aren't. This is probably what she may be thinking or her friends may be telling her this. You need to open up to her and let her know what you are going through. I don't think you need to share with her that you lied and cheated on your wife. That would only lead her to think you may do that to her since you can do that to your wife. You can just say that we are both good people, but we aren't good for each other. Tell her you love your child and want to spend as much time with your child as possible and ask her how she feels about being with a man with a child. What is done is done. If you want to start fresh with someone and make it right this time around, then this is the time to do it. She is your opportunity if you are completely honest and respectful to her. You are lucky that she is meeting you ;) Tell her you are separated if that is so, and get your divorce finalized and show her the Judgment once it is finalized. Date her and treat her like a woman. If she is a good woman then treat her like one. Leave your past character behind. Everyone makes mistakes, but don't be dumb and redo your mistakes because you'll just lose another good woman. Good luck!